Smiling can be contagious…

Today was one of those long, busy, tiring, and uneventful days when, out of nowhere, it just changed.

One minute I was having a blah kind of day.  Then suddenly, I found myself engaged in conversation, which quickly turned into this contagious laughter.  This was definitely something I needed after the last several weeks I’ve had.

The person who caused me to laugh so hard,  started laughing even more after I couldn’t seem to stop. So, we were both cracking up after a while.

It was a simple verbal engagement that totally changed the course of my day.  The best part is that I didn’t see it coming.  It was like a breath of fresh air.

Usually, people say that about the bad things, “I didn’t see it coming”, but it’s so refreshing to be able to say that about something positive.

Immediately after that moment of intense laughter, I crossed paths with another just like him.  Perhaps he could hear the essence of laughter in my voice, because this cheerful conversation mimicked the one before it.  Different topic, yet same happy vibe.

Although I really have nothing to complain about because everyday is a blessing, I sure do wish days like this were more frequent.

Have you ever laughed so hard that you just couldn’t control it?  So, you know what I mean.  It feels good, right?

Its funny how a simple experience like laughter can be a major turning point in someone’s day!

Just something to think about…


Life is so precious…

About two weeks ago, I was reminded of just how so precious life is.  Not that I wasn’t already aware of it, but one of my sisters passed away and while we weren’t phone pals or even really that close, she was still family.

Mom adopted her when she was just a little girl and that connected us for life.  I really didn’t think it would have that much affect on me but surprisingly it did.  I was devastated!

She was only 38 years old with a husband, children, and other siblings, that she left behind.

It was pretty sad because it just seemed to me like a senseless death due to the circumstances of her illness and the fact that the actual illness doesn’t appear to be the cause of death.  Rather senseless miscalculations, if you will.

Maybe this was just how God planned for her to go all along….  But we didn’t know it.

We as humans don’t always understand why some things happen the way they do, but God knows what he’s doing.

Even with the knowledge that God is in control, it still doesn’t take away the sadness of it all.

We must always be grateful for life.  Precious moments with friends and loved ones should be cherished.

We should think of our good health and wellness as a special gift.  Our very existence is so special!

With that being said, I pray that God blesses each and every one of you and may you have full healthy lives full of all the joy and happiness you can stand.

Talk soon!…

Whats your special prayer?….

Sometimes, I find myself praying for:

A spouse who will love God as I do, if not more

One who will find joy in the same things as I do

His face will light up when I walk in the room

He will be an emotionally strong and healthy gentleman

He will be handsome with just the right amount of charm

I want him to possess a kind, caring, and loving heart and spirit

Be a strong man and not be afraid to express his deepest feelings

He will always put my best interests before his own

He will look forward to spending quality family time

He must always show me loyalty, honesty, and commitment

He will be respectful and will love me and my children

Possess a funny playful nature but know when to be serious

He will help me grow, rather than break me down

He will be humble enough to admit his flaws, yet confident enough to know his worth

He will appreciate the simple things in life and will be grateful for the big things

He will be able to put a smile on my face with little to no effort

He will have self control and not succumb to destructive habitual behavior

He will be a leader, but will not be afraid to follow if the situation requires it

He will be a good communicator and an active listener

He will be by my side through the good and bad times

Finally, but most importantly, He will continue to grow in Christ and,

Be able to encourage my growth and strengthen me.

Just something I was thinking about…

When We Ask In Jesus’ Name…

John 15:16, says “Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it to you

I noticed throughout my lifetime,  that numerous things I’ve asked God for have come to pass.  Sometimes its small things, other times its big things.

A long time ago, I asked God for a husband, and not too long after that prayer I was married.  But, what I did not ask for was to be equally yoked with my husband.  Needless to say, we were like oil and water because we were steadily going in different directions.  So, that marriage with the husband I prayed so hard for, ended in divorce.

You see, we can ask our Father, God for anything, but I believe that we must be specific.  If there are things you would rather not have, you must not omit them when you pray.  I say this because along with the things I did ask for came a host of things I did not ask for.

My prayers were definitely answered because I married a man with a big soft heart and he was handsome too!  Pretty much all the things I asked for from a worldly point of view.  I don’t recall anything in my prayer that included God’s will for my life and the husband he is preparing for me.  So, needless to say, we were not equally yoked because I did not know to ask for that.

I knew all along in my gut, my intuition, that the relationship/marriage wouldn’t work, but I fooled myself into believing I could force it if I just did all the right things. Looking back, I believe that “gut feeling” I speak of was really God saying “No, this is not what/who I’ve prepared for you”.

It was what I wanted because I did not ask my father in heaven to fulfill his will for my life, but rather I wanted him to fulfill my desire to find a husband because I thought that would fill the voids in my life at the time.  Needless to say, I did not.

Even if something is from God, that does not mean that it will be perfect, but looking back, I would rather wait on God and receive the blessings that he has for me in his time over rushing and doing things my way.

I believe that God allowed me to do things my way to remind me that he is in control, not me.  I certainly reaped the consequences of ignoring the obvious at the time.  I looked the other way as most people do when they want something so badly.  An honest “worldly” mistake.

Moving forward in your life,  when you pray for something, trust God to give you what he has prepared for you and in his time, not yours, and when it comes your way, make sure you confirm it is from him before you move forward.

Like me, while you’re dealing with the struggles of something you rushed into because you couldn’t wait on God, you’ve just missed your blessing because you’re not in position to receive it.  I call that being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

In saying that, I believe that what is for you is still for you, but missed blessings that stem from being anxious and disobedient may still come eventually, but you might have to go ‘around the world and back’ before you are able to receive them, when you could’ve already enjoyed the benefits from God’s blessings much earlier.

Just something to think about…



No, not the reflection you see in the mirror.  Rather, the type of reflection that makes you think deeply and carefully about something.

Sometimes we reflect on things of the past that we missed out on or the mistakes we made over the years.

Reflecting can make you smile, it can make you cry, or it can simply make you think about the things you deem so important that you lose yourself in it.

Reflecting can sometimes become your greatest motivator, the thing that makes you tick and want to strive to be better.

What do you find yourself thinking so deeply about that you drift into a daze?  How does it make you feel?  Do you have regrets or do you feel refreshed when you reflect on past events in your life?

Well, if you’re like me, I’ve reflected over the years about mistakes, missed opportunities, misunderstandings, misdirection, misinformation, and a host of other mishaps.

But you know what I’ve finally realized?  All those years that I’ve spent reflecting on those negative things, sadly, have held me back from reinventing, rediscovering, repairing, rebuilding, and rejoicing.

Of course, I’m reflecting on the great blessings in my life now, but imagine where I’d be if I had done this 2 decades ago.  I say this now, no longer with regret, but with wisdom.

Let your reflections be an acknowledgement of the positive things you’ve experienced and let the other things fade into the background where they belong, because the time you spend dwelling on those things which do not make you feel good about you, steals away your opportunity and motivation to make new and better memories that you can reflect on later.

Just something to think about…

Sometimes, He Says No…

Even though our father loves us so much, he sometimes says no to us.  Every prayer may not be answered but that does not mean he has left us or doesn’t love us.  It just means that what we want may not be what he wants for us.

So when things don’t go the way we think they should, maybe that thing would do us more harm than good so God, our Father, spares us by not granting it.

Other times, it might not be a ‘No”, it just might be a “Not now” from our father.

Just something to think about…


Are You Only As Good As Your Last Performance?…

I had written this at a time in my life when I felt unappreciated, but I never posted it.  Today, I felt the need to post it for someone out there who might be feeling this way so you understand what really matters.

In a perfect world, the essence of your past accomplishments would linger throughout the duration of your working and personal relationships.  But the reality in our society today seems to be that we are only as good as our last performance.

You see, the tables can turn so quickly and you won’t see it coming.  Although there are some exceptions, key qualities that one possesses such as dedication, hard work, determination, great effort, and putting yourself out for the benefit of others don’t seem to matter as much in our society.

You work hard and show great dedication through your job performance, for instance.  During this time you are the best thing since ice cream.  But then, a storm sets in, and suddenly you’re no longer favored.  You learn that you were merely the flavor of the month.

It is my opinion that our society has become conditioned to disregard the good that you did last year.  We’ve adopted the constant need for instant gratification, so values have become warped, almost non-existent.

It’s interesting how selective memory sets in for some who express themselves in such a worldly fashion.  We are human, so some of us only see that which we want to see when it comes to recognition and dollars and “$ense”.

I remember during previous career paths, I would be on my feet over the course of a 10 hour day, working so diligently to serve a need, and I would get oh so many compliments from the “powers that be”.

“Great Job” or “You’re one of my best girls” would be the words that I would hear in the heat of the moment after I’ve just solved a great crisis by accomplishing the impossible for a particular health need.  In fact, it was some of my most respected MD’s that I got multiple open compliments from, as well as their patients as I took care of their needs.

You see, I put extra care into my works to make things happen for them.

Yet, when it came time for the review and monetary adjustments, all of a sudden minor faults were compiled into one great big short coming and came to the forefront to justify the bad news, and all the hard work and dedication sort of faded in the background as if it never even happened.  I had never felt more betrayed because they turned their backs on me when I needed them to have it.

I never did understand this.  As I got older, I came to the conclusion that most of us are only as good as our last performance.

Over the years of seeing this in my life and the lives of others, I’ve learned that we should never desire praise from man.  Rather, we should desire to please God so that he will delight in us. “For they loved praise from men more than praise from God” (John 12:43)

That monetary raise or that pat on the back that you long for is much more fulfilling when it is received through God’s blessings so you must remember that it does not truly come from man, rather man is merely a vessel that God uses to bless you with these things.  He will give you all these things, and much more, that you seek from man.

In the time of your judgement (the end of your worldly existence), the rewards for your obedience and love for God and his word will be eternal life, because at that point, all your worldly accomplishments will be irrelevant.

Seek eternal life…