When We Ask In Jesus’ Name…

John 15:16, says “Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it to you

I noticed throughout my lifetime,  that numerous things I’ve asked God for have come to pass.  Sometimes its small things, other times its big things.

A long time ago, I asked God for a husband, and not too long after that prayer I was married.  But, what I did not ask for was to be equally yoked with my husband.  Needless to say, we were like oil and water because we were steadily going in different directions.  So, that marriage with the husband I prayed so hard for, ended in divorce.

You see, we can ask our Father, God for anything, but I believe that we must be specific.  If there are things you would rather not have, you must not omit them when you pray.  I say this because along with the things I did ask for came a host of things I did not ask for.

My prayers were definitely answered because I married a man with a big soft heart and he was handsome too!  Pretty much all the things I asked for from a worldly point of view.  I don’t recall anything in my prayer that included God’s will for my life and the husband he is preparing for me.  So, needless to say, we were not equally yoked because I did not know to ask for that.

I knew all along in my gut, my intuition, that the relationship/marriage wouldn’t work, but I fooled myself into believing I could force it if I just did all the right things. Looking back, I believe that “gut feeling” I speak of was really God saying “No, this is not what/who I’ve prepared for you”.

It was what I wanted because I did not ask my father in heaven to fulfill his will for my life, but rather I wanted him to fulfill my desire to find a husband because I thought that would fill the voids in my life at the time.  Needless to say, I did not.

Even if something is from God, that does not mean that it will be perfect, but looking back, I would rather wait on God and receive the blessings that he has for me in his time over rushing and doing things my way.

I believe that God allowed me to do things my way to remind me that he is in control, not me.  I certainly reaped the consequences of ignoring the obvious at the time.  I looked the other way as most people do when they want something so badly.  An honest “worldly” mistake.

Moving forward in your life,  when you pray for something, trust God to give you what he has prepared for you and in his time, not yours, and when it comes your way, make sure you confirm it is from him before you move forward.

Like me, while you’re dealing with the struggles of something you rushed into because you couldn’t wait on God, you’ve just missed your blessing because you’re not in position to receive it.  I call that being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

In saying that, I believe that what is for you is still for you, but missed blessings that stem from being anxious and disobedient may still come eventually, but you might have to go ‘around the world and back’ before you are able to receive them, when you could’ve already enjoyed the benefits from God’s blessings much earlier.

Just something to think about…




No, not the reflection you see in the mirror.  Rather, the type of reflection that makes you think deeply and carefully about something.

Sometimes we reflect on things of the past that we missed out on or the mistakes we made over the years.

Reflecting can make you smile, it can make you cry, or it can simply make you think about the things you deem so important that you lose yourself in it.

Reflecting can sometimes become your greatest motivator, the thing that makes you tick and want to strive to be better.

What do you find yourself thinking so deeply about that you drift into a daze?  How does it make you feel?  Do you have regrets or do you feel refreshed when you reflect on past events in your life?

Well, if you’re like me, I’ve reflected over the years about mistakes, missed opportunities, misunderstandings, misdirection, misinformation, and a host of other mishaps.

But you know what I’ve finally realized?  All those years that I’ve spent reflecting on those negative things, sadly, have held me back from reinventing, rediscovering, repairing, rebuilding, and rejoicing.

Of course, I’m reflecting on the great blessings in my life now, but imagine where I’d be if I had done this 2 decades ago.  I say this now, no longer with regret, but with wisdom.

Let your reflections be an acknowledgement of the positive things you’ve experienced and let the other things fade into the background where they belong, because the time you spend dwelling on those things which do not make you feel good about you, steals away your opportunity and motivation to make new and better memories that you can reflect on later.

Just something to think about…

Sometimes, He Says No…

Even though our father loves us so much, he sometimes says no to us.  Every prayer may not be answered but that does not mean he has left us or doesn’t love us.  It just means that what we want may not be what he wants for us.

So when things don’t go the way we think they should, maybe that thing would do us more harm than good so God, our Father, spares us by not granting it.

Other times, it might not be a ‘No”, it just might be a “Not now” from our father.

Just something to think about…


Are You Only As Good As Your Last Performance?…

I had written this at a time in my life when I felt unappreciated, but I never posted it.  Today, I felt the need to post it for someone out there who might be feeling this way so you understand what really matters.

In a perfect world, the essence of your past accomplishments would linger throughout the duration of your working and personal relationships.  But the reality in our society today seems to be that we are only as good as our last performance.

You see, the tables can turn so quickly and you won’t see it coming.  Although there are some exceptions, key qualities that one possesses such as dedication, hard work, determination, great effort, and putting yourself out for the benefit of others don’t seem to matter as much in our society.

You work hard and show great dedication through your job performance, for instance.  During this time you are the best thing since ice cream.  But then, a storm sets in, and suddenly you’re no longer favored.  You learn that you were merely the flavor of the month.

It is my opinion that our society has become conditioned to disregard the good that you did last year.  We’ve adopted the constant need for instant gratification, so values have become warped, almost non-existent.

It’s interesting how selective memory sets in for some who express themselves in such a worldly fashion.  We are human, so some of us only see that which we want to see when it comes to recognition and dollars and “$ense”.

I remember during previous career paths, I would be on my feet over the course of a 10 hour day, working so diligently to serve a need, and I would get oh so many compliments from the “powers that be”.

“Great Job” or “You’re one of my best girls” would be the words that I would hear in the heat of the moment after I’ve just solved a great crisis by accomplishing the impossible for a particular health need.  In fact, it was some of my most respected MD’s that I got multiple open compliments from, as well as their patients as I took care of their needs.

You see, I put extra care into my works to make things happen for them.

Yet, when it came time for the review and monetary adjustments, all of a sudden minor faults were compiled into one great big short coming and came to the forefront to justify the bad news, and all the hard work and dedication sort of faded in the background as if it never even happened.  I had never felt more betrayed because they turned their backs on me when I needed them to have it.

I never did understand this.  As I got older, I came to the conclusion that most of us are only as good as our last performance.

Over the years of seeing this in my life and the lives of others, I’ve learned that we should never desire praise from man.  Rather, we should desire to please God so that he will delight in us. “For they loved praise from men more than praise from God” (John 12:43)

That monetary raise or that pat on the back that you long for is much more fulfilling when it is received through God’s blessings so you must remember that it does not truly come from man, rather man is merely a vessel that God uses to bless you with these things.  He will give you all these things, and much more, that you seek from man.

In the time of your judgement (the end of your worldly existence), the rewards for your obedience and love for God and his word will be eternal life, because at that point, all your worldly accomplishments will be irrelevant.

Seek eternal life…

Be Thankful For The Little Things…

After “chatting” with a special new found friend, I found myself feeling grateful for the little things in my life.  Being so very grateful to my Father, God, is usually one of my strong suits, but I think I was focusing on the not so great happenings over the last few days that I forgot to remain thankful for that which I had not stopped to remember.

So thank you, for opening my eyes “today”.  I am blessed to be encouraged by you, my sister!

I am also thankful for all of my Great Christian Sisters that really have embraced me and my boys.

Some over the two decades that I’ve known them (whom I miss and love so dearly as life sometimes takes us on paths that may leave less time for sisterhood).  As well as some over the last year or so that have come into my life and been such a blessing to me.

You all know who you are! (smiling)

I see God’s hand in all of it, but it took God placing another one of his vessels in my path most recently for me to be reminded of that.

I mean, I’m always grateful, but it takes a little more oomph to recognize the little things.  Turns out the little things really make the biggest difference in our lives.

For instance, a simple smile, or special friends/sisters showing your boys just how special and important they are even when you can’t be there to do it. It means the world to us!

When you, as a parent are doing important things and building a solid foundation that will impact your children’s lives and future positively, but in doing so, come across those moments that you can’t physically be front and center for your boys, and your friends are there to bridge that gap, it’s that type of little thing that will impact everyone involved in that picture that I’ve just painted for you.

Even though on the surface, “its really no big deal”, especially for those impacting those important moments, or so it seems. 🙂

God is working in you!

Well, I’ve learned my lesson for today.  How about you?

Just Go With It…

Well, I had another very strange day today.  I found myself getting so frustrated with all the unusual ways in which the day steered me as I’m watching it unravel.  So, I’ve come to realize that you just have to “Go with it”.

Anytime you see your day going out in left field, rather than get so very uptight about it as I did today and every other day that I’ve seen things going awry, you should exercise more positive thought patterns and just try to role with the punches.  Now, as far as I knew I was rolling with it today,

I remember that I stopped for a moment, got on my knees, and prayed to God, our Father, in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ over how the day was going and I felt hopeful that the roller coaster would stop because there really was no logical reason why the day was so unpredictable.

Phillipians 2:10,11 “That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth..  And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

Finally, the solution was revealed to me.  But my thought process was, “Why couldn’t this have been resolved for me sooner?”  So my heart was not in the right place at that moment because I was questioning God.  Came to realize that God simply wasn’t ready to resolve it for me yet.

Phillipians 4:7 “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

After the day was over, I found myself feeling like I had just left a battlefield.

When I think about it in spiritual terms,  I actually did just have a day out on the battlefield.  Because these weird things don’t just come out of nowhere.  I believe the enemy meant to steal my joy and I must admit, he almost did because I felt so beaten, broken, and physically drained afterwards.

Then, I realized that it is not the battle that I must be concerned about, its the war.  I plan on winning the war when its all said and done because I claim victory over the enemy every time, no matter how frazzled I may become after his nasty and sneaky attacks.

While he may interfere with my joy or your joy, he cannot take it away unless we let him.  Don’t ever give him that power over you!!!

So, in closing this day’s journal, I may have lost the battle today, but I have not lost the war and I don’t plan on it.

Our Father in Heaven has the final say!

Stay Prayed Up….The Weapon Of Choice

This week, I had fluctuating moments of great and not so great experiences.  Then, there were those down right mind boggling, dreadful domino effect type moments that I’m sure we all experience from time to time.

Remember, how I shared with you recently that God made the impossible happen for me.  It was a big deal!!! Well, he does things like that mostly when I least expect it, which makes it all the more appreciated.  Some are big while others are small. Sometimes the little things have the most powerful impact for me.  But, there are also those times when things just go very wrong.

While being careful not to be a downer, I have to share with you that we must always stay prayed up and never ever let our guards down because just as our Father is always there to pick us up, show us favor, or just bless us when we least expect it, the enemy is always lurking around to seek whom he may devour by doing everything in reverse of what God does.

I constantly have to remind myself that “No Weapon Formed Against Me Shall Prosper”, taken from Isiah 54:17.

I say that because I’m in a delicate situation in my life’s path right now. I have to stay at a perfect happy medium.  Can’t go too far left, and can’t go too far right. Constantly in search of that perfect balance for it to be acceptable.

It reminds me of someone having this unfinished drawing before them and they’re trying their best to color it in perfectly with a magic maker, but its not easy.  You’ve got a variety of shapes within that drawing, so you have to really focus on what you’re doing, or you’ll mess it up.

You have to stay right between those lines, but you try try, yet you sometimes color past them. So, there goes your would be perfect masterpiece, but only if you could’ve avoided coloring outside those lines.  It can be a real challenge sometimes.

So, I experience that constant feeling that one unusual mishap can land me right back to square one.  Some would say that’s lack of faith but I’ve seen a life change literally at a moment’s notice. So it’s kind of nerve wracking to never really know when things could change. I guess that’s really just life in general, though.

I keep God very close to my heart, I talk to him and praise him every single day,  but once in a while I slack off from my prayers and bible studies.  It seems like during those times, when I am my most tired self and I just want to lie down and do absolutely nothing after working a full day (including skipping that intimate moment of prayer), unforeseeable “out of the ordinary” things seem to occur.

When those things happen, I think to myself, “that’s just the enemy trying to attack me at my most vulnerable moment”, but I know that the enemy has no power unless I give it to him and I certainly am not doing that!

Other times, I think “Maybe God’s giving me that little nudge and allowing things to get off course to say “Hey, don’t forget about me,  I’m still here”.  I really don’t know enough about the word yet to know for sure if he works exactly that way, but it sure feels like it sometimes because just like the blessings wow me, the mishaps get my attention too.

When that happens, where do I find myself?  On my knees and clinging to my Father more diligently once again, just like the little girl clings to her earthly father when something goes wrong.

Be more committed to prayer and learning the word.

This message is a reminder for me just as it is for any reader who might need it…